We went to our first Iban wedding. To be officially married the couples need to go to the government to register. Then the couple will usually have marriage ceremonies in their tribes or have receptions. There was lots of symbolism with fruit being plucked etc. The ceremony was conducted in Iban. Sister Helen, President Goven' wife, explained and translated but couldn't follow it all. It is tradition that the oldest child marries first. If a younger child marries before, the couple will give a ring to the older child so that there will be no hard feelings. Elder Steven told us of one man that had 4 rings from his sibling that got married before him.